I found myself wanting to go to different priests to try and get all of their advice. It was a time of conversion. And many priests helped to show me the unconditional love of the Father. Father S. would always say: “Be gentle, be gentle with yourself. Rome wasn’t built in a day.” That and his many other maxims brought a smile to my face, but to be honest, they were truly good advice that I find myself saying to penitents today.