While not being ready for a relationship is an alright state of mind, I screwed myself over by continually pursuing an idealized yet unrealistic vision of what I wanted from my partner and our romantic situation. That said, as Dr. Carbino alludes, this logical disconnect and disillusion is the same one many other frustrated dating app users feel, because unlike many other types of apps, these ones shouldn’t be about conveniently and instantaneously getting what you want.