It can be hard to let go of how things might have been, the pressure of this for everyone involved can be substantial. For the person with dementia they can feel the pressure of trying to be how they were, live up to a standard or expectation and feel a sense of failure and incompetence if they can’t. Change means change, and this means that things might not be exactly as they were. Although often challenging, acceptance can be a helpful and positive quality in times of change.