Sue, I agree with all you wrote. Those are very wise words and sound like you have experienced this also. I’d like to add this. Some may want to write a letter telling the person who is gone, just how much it hurts at times and how much that dear one is missed. Tuck it away and look at it later, 6 months, a year, 5 years whenever you feel like it. It can tell us that the pain is getting less, but the empty space remains.