that is upsetting about your friend. i have some friends who i can dish it raw with, and others who i know it would not be a good fit. it is rarer than i thought apparently to have peeps that you can share it all with, and i am truly glad that i have some of them in my life. you have my support and i bet your friend and her spouse could benefit from more exposure to your pervtootie self. vampires and supernatural stuff not for many, but sex (whether having it or not) is usually up for grabs (heh).