If you are right, then God is a hateful, mean spirited God who created a group of people for the sole purpose of rejecting them and allowing people to ostracize and hate them. I won’t believe in such a god. Fortunately, the broad spectrum of scholarly work that has been done to counter the narrow-minded views like yours that put me in this position shows that, the answer is neither- I am not wrong and God is not wrong for creating me the way that he did. So no, my heart is not hardened, it is open to broader concepts than you seem to be willing to fathom.