Frankly, your “out-of-date and stupid” is our “oh, great! Steph wrote something!” I’m happy to read every word. And remember, anything you have to say about your grief will probably be helpful for those of us also struggling with it. I lost my dad a year ago last weekend, and last weekend it was as if it had just happened. And as for “autistic,” I worked with special needs kids, many of them autistic, for many years, and that guy didn’t sound autistic to me. Most autistic people I’ve encountered will tie themselves in knots to avoid a social encounter, and as for initiating one? Not happening, mostly. Of course, you’re kind: we know this. I’m glad you do too. Love the mitts.