everyone is not mormon in utah, right?! however, i do understand what you mean, but it really is no diff than having any type of private activity that you would not announce in public to just anyone- IMHO. i do not say hello to my neighbors and then share i had an orgasm, shaved my bits, or read erotica involving blood exchanges. now i am cracking self up again since i can imagine they might say, “come again” to repeat myself and i would lose it entirely. elder neighborhoods rock in a cool and calm, humor and wisdom-filled way.