During this time of switching home study agencies we became aware of a sibling group of 4 girls ages 5, 8, 12, and 14. Apparently they had been looking for a home for these girls for quite some time, unsuccessfully. They were talking of splitting them into two’s since they weren’t able to find a family for them. The idea of splitting up siblings crushed my heart. I couldn’t imagine being split apart from my siblings at that age. I felt immediately that God had put love in my heart for these four girls and wanted to adopt them. My wife took a more systematic approach, weighing out the pro’s and con’s and deciding if we were at a point in or lives to be both willing and able to adopt four girls. Ultimately, we decided to travel to Ethiopia and meet the girls and get to know them and let them get to know us without them knowing that we were thinking of adopting them (so they could be free to be themselves around us and not performing for potential parents). Something that was important to my wife and I was giving the girls choice in choosing us. Through all the trauma and everything the girls had been through they were never given and choice in any of this, everything just happened to them. We wanted to empower them to choose us just as we were choosing them.