There were problems almost straight away. She couldn't keep her eyes off the other officers and, as she was the first to admit, did not have it within her to be "a good housewife". "I was not content at home," she later confessed. "I wanted to live like a colourful butterfly in the sun." He was jealous, though saw no reason why he should forego the womanising, drinking and coarseness of his bachelor days. He was constantly in debt; she was extravagant, always spending. As for his syphilis, caught overseas, he neglected to tell her. The omens were not good.Nonetheless, she bore him two children, and they returned as a family to his new posting in the colonies.