You now have to look at the things we talked about from the other point of view. Your defining aspects have created a particular person that is so far unable to see properly in the puddle. The water is muddy, remember? We have to now stop making excuses and look at why what we enjoy is keeping us from progress, why is our confidence reducing our potential, and why is your anxiety making life more difficult? This is the part where you have to see these things from an outside perspective and apply an adult and mature pruning of all the thoughts that create these feelings which are based on self-limiting and baseless ideas.