i will say that those who are often viewed as so proper are more passionate and erotic than most would suspect or know. they blame me, the perv! as you call it, for bringing that out in them and i call false about that 🙂 i am just someone they trust enough to be comfortable and willing to talk about “such things” with IMHO. life is always interesting, for this short ride it seems we should be able to find some to share our innermost thoughts and feelings with at some point. i hope that you have someone like this for yourself. i am fortunate in this area.