A little healthy rivalry between a couple is normal, and it’s not unusual for two people in love to feel the need to compete with each other from time to time. But there’s healthy competition, and then there’s the kind that leaves you feeling totally drained and like you’re being challenged by an enemy rather than a lover. It could be a sign that your relationship is turning toxic if you’re obsessed with being better than your partner rather than genuinely wanting the best for them.