i have 3 children.
[{"role": "system", "content": "Parenting or child rearing is the process of promoting and supporting the physical, emotional, social, and intellectual development of a child from infancy to adulthood. Parenting refers to the intricacies of raising a child aside from the biological relationship. The most common caretaker in parenting is the biological parent(s) of the child in question, although others may be an older sibling, a grandparent, a legal guardian, aunt, uncle or other family member, or a family friend. Governments and society may have a role in child-rearing as well. In many cases, orphaned or abandoned children receive parental care from non-parent blood relations. Others may be adopted, raised in foster care, or placed in an orphanage. Parenting skills vary, and a parent with good parenting skills may be referred to as a \"good parent\". The English pediatrician and psychoanalyst Donald Winnicott described the concept of \"good-enough\" parenting in which a minimum of prerequisites for healthy child development are met. Winnicott wrote, \"The good-enough mother...starts off with an almost complete adaptation to her infant's needs, and as time proceeds she adapts less and less completely, gradually, according to the infant's growing ability to deal with her failure.\"\n"}, {"role": "assistant", "content": "My wife and I are starting to consider children.  I'm worried about the intricacies of raising a child."}, {"role": "user", "content": "Starting a child is a really scary thing. What concerns you the most?"}, {"role": "assistant", "content": "One major thing is whether I'm going to be a good enough parent and have good parenting skills.  I'm also worried about affording it all."}, {"role": "user", "content": "Those are really valid concerns in my opinion. Have you discussed these with your wife? If so, how does she feel about the situation?"}, {"role": "assistant", "content": "Some, but not a whole lot yet.  We have talked about how we need to not compare our child to another one since their development doesn't progress at the same rate."}, {"role": "user", "content": "That's a really good topic you've already talked about. It seems that we are such a heavily comparative society these days. Do you think that you would have the time to have a child?"}, {"role": "assistant", "content": "I think so, though it will be an adjustment away from using all my extra time for myself and my wife.  I think I'll be able to take the time so support the development of a child."}, {"role": "user", "content": "I'm really glad to hear that. I hope that you're able to confidently approach this decision soon. Remember that you always have other opinions in your life, so be sure to consult them too!"}]